Being an introvert isn’t easy. If anything it makes things far more difficult than they actually are. An introvert generally prefers solitary activities to interacting with large groups of people. If you would rather work through your feelings in your diary than have a conversation, then you are an introvert.
I want to start off by showing you some images that show what goes on inside an introvert’s mind in different scenarios.
Some facts about introverts
→ We have a deep and internal hatred to talk on the phone. Texting or emailing is the way to go, that is how we connect. This is certainly what I’m most comfortable with.
→ ‘Don’t be shy’. Not something you should say to an introvert. We can’t just stop being shy, it’s in our nature. It isn’t just the flick of a switch to turn off our ‘shy mode’. It’s like telling someone not to be tall – not everyone needs to be extroverted.
→ If we leave early, it’s not because we are having a bad time. It means we are leaving before we get overwhelmed. We probably have an absolutely lovely time!
→ We are really good listeners. You may think we are just judging you, or we aren’t really listening – but this isn’t true. We are just not big talkers.
→ Meeting new people can be a really scary thing. If we pass up an opportunity to meet new people, it’s not because we want to. Long story short, it’s just because we can’t.
Introversion and Me
My favourite place to go is the park. This is where I write most of my blog posts and where I do most of my thinking. I’m actually sat at the park as I’m writing now. I like my own company. It’s wonderful having my husband around no doubt. Taking time out is important for me and that’s how I discovered MINDFULNESS. When I do nothing but think, in a place I feel most comfortable, everything seems ok. I don’t have to worry about the things of the world. In the zone, nothing and no one can bring me down.
In spite of things that have happened over the past two years, I have really come to know who I am. I am proud of who I am and no one can change that – NO ONE. I have been trying to be someone I’m not. Pushed myself out of my comfort zone. But that’s not me. That’s not who I am. Only now have I learnt to be my own me, not someone else’s me. I guess all I am trying to say is whether you’re an introvert or an extrovert, JUST BE YOURSELF. Don’t listen to what others say. They don’t know you like you do. You know what you’re comfortable with, you know what you’re not.
“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.”