I want to talk about ‘Baby Loss Awareness Week – 9th to 15th October’. This coming week is an opportunity:
• for bereaved parents, and their families and friends, to unite with others across the world to commemorate their babies’ lives.
• to raise awareness about the issues surrounding pregnancy and baby loss in the UK, and push for tangible improvements in services, support, research or policy around bereavement support.
• to let the public and key stakeholders what charities and other supportive organisations are doing on bereavement support around pregnancy and baby loss.
Please join us to raise awareness and help the charities that support bereaved families across the UK.
There are a few ways in which we can help raise awareness for this special cause…
♥ Wear the pin – You can purchase this pin from the ‘Baby Loss Awareness’ website. Then you can choose the charity you would like to send the donation to from the drop down menu. Post pictures of you wearing your Baby Loss Awareness pin badge to show your support and help raise awareness one ribbon at a time, #babyloss.
♥ Break the silence – Pregnancy and baby loss is often a taboo subject. Help us to break the silence around baby death. This could be by telling a friend about Baby Loss Awareness Week or wearing a Baby Loss Awareness pin badge.
♥ Join us for the global wave of light – Baby Loss Awareness Week finishes each year on October 15th with the global ‘Wave of Light’. October 15th is also International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day and is recognised across the world. Simply light a candle at 7pm local time and leave it burning for at least 1 hour. Join us in remembering all babies that have died too soon. This can be done individually or in a group, at home or in a communal space. Wherever you do this, you will be joining a global ‘Wave of Light’ in memory of all the babies who lit up our lives for such a short time.
On the 6th August 2016, we found out were having a baby. I was so excited. A lot of my friends had babies and I was getting insanely broody – it was the best news. I was just like any other woman in early pregnancy with her first child, I was extra cautious of my daily activities. I made sure I strayed away from the things I shouldn’t eat, heavy exercise and my vitamins daily. On 4th September 2016 I was rushed to A&E. It was the day of my best friend’s daughter’s blessing. I thought the worst, as anyone would. Then the worst news. I have never felt so much pain in my life, both physically, mentally and emotionally. I immediately blamed myself. Was it something I did wrong? Did I harm my baby? All sorts went through my mind.
My family were so supportive during this time and I cannot thank them enough. I wouldn’t wish this upon anyone, even my worst enemy. No woman should have to go through what I went through, but it made me stronger. It made me the woman I am today. Without my husband’s support I don’t know what I would have done – most likely give up. I was so broken down. I took just 2 weeks off work to sort myself out and recover. Every day was a struggle. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about my precious baby. But I know my angel is in a better place.
Six months went by and on the 13th April I found out I was pregnant. After what happened in September I was so incredibly grateful. This time I was extremely cautious. I didn’t want to go through all of what I went through six months before. We were over the moon and I couldn’t believe I had been able to fall pregnant again. Unfortunately though, the same thing happened. I found myself in A&E losing another baby. I was shook, I couldn’t think, I couldn’t speak. All I did was cry. My Husband was my rock. He was the one that brought me up when I was down and reassured me that everything was going to be alright.
You are not alone
I turned to the miscarriage association. They were so supportive and I was able to connect with other women going through the same obstacles as I was. I was able to support others and share experiences with them. We were able to strengthen each other through our experiences. I joined a few groups on Facebook, where mothers shared their experiences and their feelings openly. Speaking about it has helped me a lot. I find myself at times breaking down and wondering why. But I know that one day I will have my rainbow baby. That day will be the most special day of my life, to bring a baby into this world. I will be wearing my badge to symbolize both my baby’s lives.
A few of my close friends are holding an event on Facebook to spread awareness and to raise money for Sands – still birth & neonatal charity. Sands is a UK charity that works across the country to support anyone affected by the death of a baby; improve the care bereaved parents receive from health care and other professionals; and reduce the number of babies who do die by funding research and working closely with other organisations to create a world where fewer babies die. Please go and check it out my clicking here. It would really mean a lot. Let’s spread awareness #babyloss.
“Though we never saw you, never kissed, never held you…we will always love you”